Ask the Experts: How Can I Help My Child Regulate Their Emotions?

My kiddo has frequent meltdowns, especially when they are frustrated or tired. How can I help them manage their emotions better?

Answer:

Emotional regulation is a skill that develops over time, and it’s very common for children in this age range to struggle with managing strong feelings. Here are some ways to support your child:

• Acknowledge Their Feelings: Start by validating your child’s emotions. A simple phrase like, “I can see that you’re really upset,” lets them know it’s okay to feel what they’re feeling.

• Teach Calm-Down Strategies: Help your child learn how to calm themselves when they’re upset. Techniques like deep breathing, counting to 10, or squeezing a stress ball can be very effective. Practice these strategies together when they’re calm, so they know how to use them during stressful moments.

• Provide a Predictable Routine: A consistent routine helps children feel safe and reduces frustration. Knowing what comes next during the day helps children anticipate what to expect, making transitions smoother.

  
  

With patience and consistent practice, your child will learn to recognize and express their emotions in healthier ways.

References: 

Cole, P. M., & Denham, S. A. (2006). Emotional development in childhood: The role of emotional regulation.

C. S. L. Dunsmore (Ed.), Emotion regulation in children and adolescents (pp. 161-189). The Guilford Press.

Miller, M. (2002). Helping children manage their emotions: The role of early childhood educators. Early Childhood Education Journal, 30(4), 233-240.